Fixes are much riskier than hugs, too.
If a woman gives a man an unsuccessful hug, it’s no big deal. Thanks for trying. If a man offers to solve a problem that a woman mentions in passing, however, he becomes the problem. And if he goes so far as to implement the solution unbidden … oy.
Unfortunately, men have no way – no way at all – of knowing if a woman is asking for a hug or a hand. “The sink is broken” always sounds to us like “Please fix the broken sink.” It never sounds like, “Please hold me while I tell you how sad the broken sink makes me feel, but don’t make me even sadder by actually fixing it.”